If You Feel Thankful, Write It Down. It's Good For Your Health

Dec 24, 2018
Originally published on December 26, 2018 4:26 pm

Over this past year, lifestyle blogger Aileen Xu has kept a monthly gratitude list.

Sometimes it was the big stuff: "I'm grateful that my family is so understanding. I'm grateful so many people care."

And sometimes it was life's little blessings: "July 2018: I'm grateful for good hair after I shower."

Xu started making such lists when she was in college, "at a point when I was just not in a very good place in my life." Now, the 28-year-old lifestyle blogger and YouTuber recommends the practice to her nearly 750,000 subscribers.

It wasn't a hard sell.

"I think just over the last few years there's been more of a trend to focus on gratitude," says psychologist Laurie Santos, who teaches a course on the science of well-being and happiness at Yale.

Gratitude is being endorsed by wellness blogs and magazines. You can buy different kinds of specific gratitude journals, or download apps that remind you to jot down your blessings.

"Those types of products can remind us to take time to be grateful," Santos says. "But it's also important to remember that gratitude is free."

And noting your gratitude seems to pay off: There's a growing body of research on the benefits of gratitude. Studies have found that giving thanks and counting blessings can help people sleep better, lower stress and improve interpersonal relationships. Earlier this year, a study found that keeping a gratitude journal decreased materialism and bolstered generosity among adolescents.

In another study from August, high school students who were asked to keep gratitude journals also reported healthier eating. There's also some evidence it could lower your risk of heart disease and lower symptoms of depression for some people.

That's why gratitude features heavily in Santos' happiness class. "It's one of the practices that really wins out from the field of positive psychology," she says, because it takes very little time, and "the benefits are so powerful."

Making gratitude lists is one way of accessing those benefits. You could thank God or the universe. You could keep your gratitude private or share it with others. The best way of accessing and expressing gratitude may be different for each person.

Santos' students, in addition to keeping gratitude journals, are asked to write a thank you letter and then read it out loud to the recipient. "I can show measurable improvements in well-being even a month after you've done this," Santos says.

What works for some people may not work for others. To find your best method, "[r]eally think about what feels right and what feels natural or meaningful to you," says Sonja Lyubomirsky, a professor of psychology at the University of California, Riverside, who studies happiness and gratitude.

Some may find that a daily dose of gratitude in the morning can be transformative. "It helps me feel awake and abundantly joyful," says Sam Khazai, a 38-year-old actor based in New York, who uses a journal that prompts him to list three things he's grateful for each day.

"I know it sounds kind of meta," he says. "But practicing gratitude, it brings me so much gratitude in and of itself."

There have been times, however, when he has skipped a day or even several days when he's felt especially down. "Or if I don't skip those days, I've straight up lied to my own gratitude journal ... I've filled it with things I hoped to be grateful for," he says — but he didn't feel grateful, and forcing it felt bad.

"Gratitude is a very rich emotion, but it's also kind of a complicated one," notes Lyubomirsky. "Sometimes when you express gratitude, you could also feel humbled or indebted or embarrassed. So it doesn't always feel pleasant."

In one study Lyubomirsky and her colleagues found that counting blessings once a week boosted happiness, but doing so three times a week didn't. "That suggests that for most people, at least on average, three times a week was too much," she says. "And too much gratitude can sort of backfire."

There's also a lack of research on how gratitude exercises affect people with clinical depression, anxiety or suicidal tendencies, Lyubomirsky says. "If you're depressed, and you're asked to express gratitude ... you might have trouble thinking of what you're grateful for, or you may feel really guilty you haven't paid back that person you're grateful for."

Indeed, for all the research on the broad benefits of expressing gratitude, there's also evidence that it isn't for everyone. And it isn't a panacea — it can't make injustice, loss, or pain disappear.

What gratitude can do is give us hope. "The research shows that focusing on the positive, in addition to the negative, can boost our mood more than we expect," says Santos.

In Oakland, Calif., 31-year-old mental health counselor Zeyda Garcia agrees. During really tough times, like when she'd lost a job and was sleeping on her friend's mom's couch — she felt like she was reaching for reasons to be grateful.

But she still tried to find some. "Even if it's just — I'm grateful for the sun that's shining or being able to wake up," she says. It felt hokey, and "kind of fake, a little bit."

But ultimately, it helped. "It allowed me to ground myself," she says. "It allowed me to remember what was going well, in a world full of chaos."

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If you're still scrambling this Christmas Eve to find a last-minute present, you may want to consider a gratitude journal. A growing body of research shows that logging your thanks can boost your mental and maybe even your physical health. Maanvi Singh has the story.

MAANVI SINGH, BYLINE: Over this past year, Aileen Xu has kept a monthly list.

AILEEN XU: Let me see. (Reading) February 2018, I'm grateful that my family is so understanding. I'm grateful that so many people care.

SINGH: Sometimes it's big stuff, and sometimes it's the little blessings.

XU: (Reading) July, I'm grateful for good hair after I shower (laughter).

SINGH: Xu started gratitude journaling when she was in college and feeling really low. She's now 28 and a lifestyle blogger. And she's recommended the practice to nearly 750,000 YouTube subscribers. It wasn't a hard sell. Psychologist Laurie Santos teaches a class on happiness at Yale.

LAURIE SANTOS: I think there - just over the last few years, there's been more of a trend to focus on gratitude.

SINGH: In wellness blogs and magazines, gratitude apps and journals...

SANTOS: Those types of products can remind us to take time to be grateful, but it's also important to remember that gratitude is free.

SINGH: And it pays off. A growing body of research shows that counting blessings can help you sleep better. It can lower stress and improve your relationships with others. There's also some evidence it could lower your risk of heart disease, and it may help lower depression in some people.

SANTOS: And the research suggests that taking time to focus on those positives, in addition to the negatives, can boost our mood more than we expect.

SINGH: Listing out what you're grateful for is one way of doing it. You could thank God or the universe or other people. You could keep it all private, or you could share it. Psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky studies gratitude at the University of California, Riverside. Her advice...

SONJA LYUBOMIRSKY: Really think about what feels right - what feels natural or enjoyable or meaningful to you.

SINGH: And try to do it regularly but not too often. In one study, Lyubomirsky found that counting blessings once a week boosted happiness. But doing so three times a week did not. She warns that too much gratitude can backfire.

LYUBOMIRSKY: Because sometimes when you express gratitude, you could also feel humbled or indebted or maybe even embarrassed. So it doesn't always actually feel pleasant.

SINGH: And it's not a panacea. Psychologist Santos says sometimes gratitude research can feel Pollyanna-ish.

SANTOS: You know, when we talk about, you know, focus on the things you're grateful for, we think that's equivalent to, you know, like, ignoring all the bad things in the world.

SINGH: Gratitude can not make injustice, loss or pain disappear. What it can do is give us hope. In Oakland, Calif., 31-year-old mental health counselor Zeyda Garcia agrees. When she first started making gratitude lists five years ago, it felt a bit hokey.

ZEYDA GARCIA: Yeah. It felt kind of, like, fake a little bit.

SINGH: During really tough times, like when she'd lost a job and she was sleeping on her friend's mom's couch, she felt like she was reaching for reasons to be grateful. But she still tried to find some.

GARCIA: Even if it's literally like, I'm grateful for the sun that's shining today or being able to wake up.

SINGH: Over the years, she says it's helped her change her perspective. And this little shift has made all the difference. For NPR News, I'm Maanvi Singh. And I'm very thankful to you for listening.

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